Tag Archive: relationships

Belonging and Owning (pt. 1)

It’s amazing sometimes, how much insight can be housed in a child’s naïve, innocent little mind. During a slightly more interesting than normal morning commute, I posed a question to our kids: “Why do you belong to mommy and daddy?” Beta, our little boy, responded immediately, and very sincerely by saying, “Because I love you both very much.” Aside from melting my heart, his response touched the core of what I love about the concept of marriage for myself.

Anillos de Matrimonio, Aros de Matrimonio

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This Polyamorist’s Creed

Assassin's Creed 3 Boston

Nothing is true; everything is permitted

Altaïr, Ezio, Ratonhnhaké:ton, and Desmond all lived by a Creed.

I don’t consider myself an assassin, but today I experienced an eruption of thoughts that have been circulating in my mind for quite some time and for reasons deeper than this post will explore. But, in addition to this article, that eruption (“compulsive, uncontrollable word-vomit”, I called it on twitter earlier today) produced a personal Creed that resonates with that of the fictional Assassin’s:

“Nothing is real; everything is experienced. “

What does that even mean?

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No Place Like Home

I love marriage. Not necessarily the ‘official’ kind of marriage that requires a piece of paper from a judge or the blessing of a religious official, if that’s your thing. (It was a judge for us… but that’s a wholly different story.) Not the marriage that’s a construct of society, religion, the state, or anyone. I mean marriage that’s almost the living, breathing construct of no one but the participants.  Marriage in the sense of being bound to another by the deepest part of self. The kind of marriage that you feel within you. I’ve always felt that. That sense of comfort in the knowing that something is just…right. Like clicking the heels of your sparkling red shoes.

Dorothy's Ruby Slippers

There’s no place like home. There’s no place like home.

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Don’t Judge Our Poly


We are Poly..

We are a male /female couple and we are currently looking for another woman to share our life with. I guess we are called unicorn hunters.  This term has taken on a negative view for some people. However I really think that it is unfair to be judged so harshly. Why can’t people make choices about how they want to live, who they want to love and how they chose to label or not label themselves?

I know this seems like a rant and I guess it may be, but really more than anything it is a form of reflection and explanation.

We are not currently looking for a male or a male/female couple to spend our life with. Why? Because, even though I consider myself bi-sexual I currently have no desire to be with another man. I know that at any time I can talk to my husband about any desires that I may or may not have to be with another man or men for that matter. My lack of current desire does not mean that I am not poly. This does not mean that I think my way is the right way and that someone else’s is wrong. Point of the matter is I do not think there is a right way or a wrong way to “be poly”. What fits for one family may not fit for the next.

Please don’t judge our  Poly.

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About Êta and about Rho

{η, ρ}

To start with, here’s this from our ‘Why’ page:

Two of x because, while x is completely unknown, we are the Two, and we know ourself, and we know ourselves. We know our selves as two people who value our relationship. We know our selves to be open and honest, even when it’s difficult. We know our selves to have a lot of life and love to share…

We know this stuff because we’ve had to learn it… Some (maybe much) of it the hard way… We’ve been at this and working on ‘us’ for quite some time, and think we have managed to come out of it with something pretty amazing…

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