Category: Us Two


Thoughts on Facial Hair and Self-Acceptance

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hair removal – Chinatown; Bangkok, city of angels (Photo credit: Sailing “Footprints: Real to Reel” (Ronn ashore))

I have been thining a alot lately about what being a woman means to me. I have also been thinking even more about raising a daughter. I want Rho and I to help our children develop self-awarness and a very strong sense of self-acceptance and self-worth.

I can’t help but wonder about the ideas society feeds into the minds of young people, especially young girls. I am working on another post and I hope to wrap it up soon, but in the meantime I’ve  been thinking about some reading I’ve been doing. I read this Daily Mail article and then this post by Curvaceous Dee. But what started it all off was this  article on xoJane.com. After reading that, what I really wanted to do is share a comment I made on xoJane.

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This Polyamorist’s Creed

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Nothing is true; everything is permitted

Altaïr, Ezio, Ratonhnhaké:ton, and Desmond all lived by a Creed.

I don’t consider myself an assassin, but today I experienced an eruption of thoughts that have been circulating in my mind for quite some time and for reasons deeper than this post will explore. But, in addition to this article, that eruption (“compulsive, uncontrollable word-vomit”, I called it on twitter earlier today) produced a personal Creed that resonates with that of the fictional Assassin’s:

“Nothing is real; everything is experienced. “

What does that even mean?

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The Barrier

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Typical Barrier

This has probably happened to most of us at least once… you’re really hungry, but you can’t think of anything you actually want to eat that doesn’t require more energy and effort than you have. But, then you remember that you’re really close to this restaurant. You don’t eat there very often at all, but every time you do, you leave saying that you need to eat more there more often because the food is surprisingly good.

Sex, and especially sex between two long time partners,  can be a lot like that sometimes. With work, school, kids, and just the rest of life in general,sometimes finding the compatible levels of horniness AND time AND energy can be a challenge. But, think about that feeling when you remember the restaurant…Think about that; that’s what mutual masturbation is to our sex life. So when Êta suggested the other night, with both of us quite tired and low on the energy front, that we head off to bed a little early for a bit of dual wanking, I eagerly and wholeheartedly agreed without hesitation.

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No Place Like Home

I love marriage. Not necessarily the ‘official’ kind of marriage that requires a piece of paper from a judge or the blessing of a religious official, if that’s your thing. (It was a judge for us… but that’s a wholly different story.) Not the marriage that’s a construct of society, religion, the state, or anyone. I mean marriage that’s almost the living, breathing construct of no one but the participants.  Marriage in the sense of being bound to another by the deepest part of self. The kind of marriage that you feel within you. I’ve always felt that. That sense of comfort in the knowing that something is just…right. Like clicking the heels of your sparkling red shoes.

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There’s no place like home. There’s no place like home.

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About Êta and about Rho

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To start with, here’s this from our ‘Why’ page:

Two of x because, while x is completely unknown, we are the Two, and we know ourself, and we know ourselves. We know our selves as two people who value our relationship. We know our selves to be open and honest, even when it’s difficult. We know our selves to have a lot of life and love to share…

We know this stuff because we’ve had to learn it… Some (maybe much) of it the hard way… We’ve been at this and working on ‘us’ for quite some time, and think we have managed to come out of it with something pretty amazing…

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Why two of x?

(η, ρ) ∈ X = {η, ρ, x}

Two of x… Because x is the unknown future; it is and hopes not yet realised, plans not yet made. Who, or how many, or even whether x exists is yet to be seen. x is the spouse(s) we don’t have yet, but that we want. The person(s) we want to love and share our world with…

Two of x because, while x is completely unknown, we are the Two, and we know ourself, and we know ourselves. We know our selves as two people who value our relationship. We know our selves to be open and honest, even when it’s difficult. We know our selves to have a lot of life and love to share…

Two of x because we want to share that life and love with x

Two of x because there’s also enough to share with the Universe… Even if no one is listening.

But, we hope you are listening. Leave a comment to let us know!

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