Category: Life


There’s already some written here about the ways that Êta and I aren’t very traditional. Yet another role where that label can be applied is actually quite conventional: non-traditional college student(poorly defined term that it is). You know… that fancy name they give to those of us who are older by 5 or more years than the majority of our college peers, or however it is that they determine it. Sometimes, it can be downright bizarre walking around the quite typical college campus among all the early twenty-somethings and (egads!) teenagers….these young people who are closer in age to my kids than they are to me.

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Belonging and Owning (pt. 1)

It’s amazing sometimes, how much insight can be housed in a child’s naïve, innocent little mind. During a slightly more interesting than normal morning commute, I posed a question to our kids: “Why do you belong to mommy and daddy?” Beta, our little boy, responded immediately, and very sincerely by saying, “Because I love you both very much.” Aside from melting my heart, his response touched the core of what I love about the concept of marriage for myself.

Anillos de Matrimonio, Aros de Matrimonio

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Thoughts on Facial Hair and Self-Acceptance

hair removal - Chinatown; Bangkok, city of angels

hair removal – Chinatown; Bangkok, city of angels (Photo credit: Sailing “Footprints: Real to Reel” (Ronn ashore))

I have been thining a alot lately about what being a woman means to me. I have also been thinking even more about raising a daughter. I want Rho and I to help our children develop self-awarness and a very strong sense of self-acceptance and self-worth.

I can’t help but wonder about the ideas society feeds into the minds of young people, especially young girls. I am working on another post and I hope to wrap it up soon, but in the meantime I’ve  been thinking about some reading I’ve been doing. I read this Daily Mail article and then this post by Curvaceous Dee. But what started it all off was this  article on After reading that, what I really wanted to do is share a comment I made on xoJane.

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This Polyamorist’s Creed

Assassin's Creed 3 Boston

Nothing is true; everything is permitted

Altaïr, Ezio, Ratonhnhaké:ton, and Desmond all lived by a Creed.

I don’t consider myself an assassin, but today I experienced an eruption of thoughts that have been circulating in my mind for quite some time and for reasons deeper than this post will explore. But, in addition to this article, that eruption (“compulsive, uncontrollable word-vomit”, I called it on twitter earlier today) produced a personal Creed that resonates with that of the fictional Assassin’s:

“Nothing is real; everything is experienced. “

What does that even mean?

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The Gift of Choice, Family, and Love

Celebrate You- Celebrate Life!

Celebrate You- Celebrate Life! (Photo credit: sirwiseowl)

When he was working on our post On  Holidays and Untraditions, Rho had a snippet of writing that he didn’t want to get rid of, so he started this post in case we wanted to make a Christmas post. When I opened it up today. I saw what he wrote. It struck me hard because the conversation I had at work was weighing on me. Here is what Rho had written:

“…and NEVER let this stranger know you have kids, because then you’re an asshole as a bonus! …Because you’re ‘denying the kids all the joy'”.

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On Holidays and Untraditions…

Thanksgiving at the Trolls

Yesterday was Thanksgiving in the US. So, it’s not unexpected to see that much attention is given to the holiday from meals, to parades to football. It’s has also been interesting to see how recurrent this Huffington Post article about sharing the holidays as a poly family has been. Looking Through.Us tweeted about an article that was at least a bit of an exception in that it acknowledged that there may be differences. Even this article, though, assumes that there is some holiday tradition. But what happens when there is none at all?
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